During a great deal of Couple and Family sessions, I see “The Blame Game” being played. The scenario goes like this “He did_____” and the response is, “But she did ___, so that’s why I _______”. In order for us to begin to understand the ideal of healthy relationships, we must first have empathy and the destroyer of empathy is “Blame”.
Blame is a negative coping tools for hurt and an alternative to responsibility.
Blame them for ______
Blame them for_______
Blame them for ________
Put whatever you want in the blanks we as a society have always blamed the people who are least responsible for the circumstances.
Why don’t they just ____, I don’t understand why they live like that”.
Why do they always do that and don’t they know what will happen.
I came from the same place as them and I don’t act like that, they should just get over it.
If the soul is left in darkness, sins will be committed. The guilty one is not he who commits the sin but,
the one who causes the darkness. – Victor Hugo, Les Mise`rables